"So if we have enough food and clothing, let us be content."
I Timothy 6:8 (NLT)
It is no secret that I long for the old days. I crave simplicity and yearn for the way life
was before electronics burst on the scene and so intrusively invaded our
lives. I miss pay phones, quiet rooms
with no TVs or background noise, and watching children use their imaginations while
playing with real toys. As crazy as it
sounds, I love to sit in a dark room and listen intently to the sounds of
silence. There is nothing I enjoy more
than the things that do not cost anything at all. Take a walk with me, share your heart, and
listen patiently and with genuine interest while I pour out mine, and I’m blissfully
content. I often feel that I was born
over a century too late, and I am forever searching for a bridge to propel me
back in time to that place where I feel I most belong.
Unfortunately, I have yet to discover a time machine, and
sadly, there aren’t many things I can change about this chaotic, fast-moving
age of “enlightenment,” but I have discovered that I don’t have to alter the
world around me, I just need to change my world. No one can force me to live in a way that
makes me uncomfortable in my own skin, nor can anyone else put forth the effort
required for me to swim upstream against the current to live in a way that is counter-cultural. If I am going to live a simple, minimal life,
I am the only person who can make it happen.
Society will not conform to my ideals, and since I will never find
contentment trying to squeeze myself into its mold, we will have to part ways
and agree to disagree.
Perhaps you find yourself yearning for the old days and would
like to join me on my journey?
Here’s how:
1. Identify how you want to live. What is it that you long for most? What about your ancestors’ way of life calls
to you the loudest? Is it the
silence? The close bonds and family
values? Their deeply rooted faith in God? The joy they found in doing a
hard day’s work? The way they had time
to help others? The lack of clutter in
their homes? The fact that they only
owned what was meaningful and what they needed and/or used? Their small houses? The way they grew their own food?
2. Figure out what is distracting you. What in your atmosphere prevents you from
living that kind of life? For years, my
husband worked in the banking industry in very high-stress positions that
robbed him of time with our family. Our
indebtedness forced him to earn a certain salary and kept him bound to a job he
detested. We view the outsourcing of his
job last year as a merciful blessing that freed him to be a more hands-on
father and to participate in finishing our 13-year homeschool journey with our son. Now that he has accomplished that long-term
dream, he is looking forward to getting back into the work force, but this
time, it will be on far different terms. All glory to God, He has enabled us to make the drastic changes required to eliminate all
debt, and by my husband's choice, he is planning to find a job that will be less
brain-taxing, more physically active, and with little to zero stress. What society deems “menial” has become
something very attractive and desirable to him.
The pay will be far less, but it’s okay.
Thankfully, we don’t need what we used to need to survive, peace is more
important to us than money, and prestige is not something we seek to attain.
3. Do what you have to do to make it happen. If you long to be more present and engaged,
break up with social media. Start
pouring your heart, time, and energy into the ones who mean most to you and
socialize with those with whom you can talk face-to-face. Leave your phone out of sight and only use it
when absolutely necessary. Refuse to be
drawn in to keeping up with everyone else’s online life and be more intentional
about your own. Sell what you have to
pay what you owe, so you can work less.
Change jobs to reduce stress. Gracefully
bow out of toxic, unhealthy relationships.
Reduce overwhelm by learning to say no.
Weigh what you long for against what is preventing you from having it. If simply is the way you want to live, you
will find a way to muster the courage to make every necessary change. It is just plain worth it.
4. Prepare yourself for criticism. Not everyone is on board with wanting to live
a life of simplicity, and you may or may not garner applause and support along
the way. This is where you have to
decide whether or not you will be true to your self and the values that are
important to you, or if you will live bound to the opinions, expectations, and
approval of others. A few years ago, my
family and I made decisions that seemed far-fetched and radical. We sold our home, released most of our
physical possessions, moved into a small rental that includes yard maintenance,
and resigned from ministerial obligations that were more than we could
handle. It took steely determination and
a strong resolve to stay the course, but as we look back on our journey from a
place of deep contentment, we realize it was the right thing to do and worth
every mile. Like Christian in John
Bunyan’s “Pilgrim’s Progress,” sometimes you just have to put your fingers in
your ears and run for your life.
Far too often, we overcomplicate simplicity and completely
defeat our own purpose and desire to slow down and live a minimal life. Minimalism is the polar opposite of
complexity. The very basic, but remedial
truth is that the power to change lies within the wellspring of our own
choices. Through His help and strength, we can follow Jesus from a life of abundance to that more abundant life He came to enable us to live. "The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly." John 10:10
